This month’s focus on “Accepting & Giving Feedback” is designed to help you, as a Driver, sharpen one of the most crucial aspects of leadership: the ability to deliver and receive feedback effectively. As a Driver, you are hardwired to achieve goals, lead with clarity, and make decisive moves to push forward. Feedback—whether given or received—is an essential part of that process. It helps you fine-tune your leadership, improve your strategies, and maintain high-performance standards in everything you do.

However, feedback is not just about getting things done—it’s about developing people and fostering relationships that thrive on trust and mutual respect. This blueprint is your personalized guide to engaging in feedback with precision, courage, and a heart aligned with God’s purpose for your leadership.

Let’s dive into how you can take your natural abilities and approach feedback in a way that not only enhances productivity but also builds stronger, more effective teams and relationships.

Accepting & Giving Feedback for Drivers

Feedback as a Leadership Tool

As a Driver, you’re all about results. You value efficiency, action, and achieving your objectives without unnecessary delay. Feedback, in your world, is often seen as a tool to improve performance, correct course, and ensure that the mission is accomplished as swiftly as possible. You’re naturally inclined to give feedback that is direct and actionable, which is a tremendous asset in leadership—especially in situations where immediate results are required.

However, feedback is not just about fixing problems or pushing toward goals. It’s also about creating an environment where those around you feel empowered and valued—where they can grow through constructive feedback and achieve their highest potential under your leadership. This doesn’t mean compromising your direct approach but balancing it with the kind of empathy and grace that brings out the best in people. The goal is not just getting the job done but building up others in the process.

Proverbs 27:17 reminds us, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” This is the perfect image of what feedback should be for a Driver like you. You’re here to sharpen others, to challenge them to improve, and to create pathways for greater achievement. But sharpening involves precision and care—it’s about knowing when to push for improvement and when to offer encouragement.

Giving Feedback as a Driver

You thrive when you’re in control of a situation and have a clear path to success. When giving feedback, your natural inclination is to cut straight to the point. This no-nonsense approach is beneficial in many ways, as it ensures that issues are addressed quickly and without ambiguity. People know where they stand with you, and your clear directives help keep things moving forward.

However, here’s the challenge: while your directness is often appreciated for its clarity, it can sometimes be perceived as too harsh or lacking in empathy. Feedback isn’t just about correction—it’s also about connection. If people feel that your feedback is purely transactional, they may resist it, even if it’s exactly what they need to hear.

Colossians 3:12-14 reminds us to “clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.” As a Driver, learning to deliver feedback with kindness and gentleness—while still maintaining your focus on results—will help you build stronger, more motivated teams. Feedback that builds people up instead of tearing them down leads to greater loyalty, better performance, and, ultimately, the results you seek.

Receiving Feedback as a Driver

Here’s where things can get tricky. You’re accustomed to leading, not being led. As a result, receiving feedback—especially if it’s critical—can feel uncomfortable. Drivers often view feedback as a challenge to their authority or an indication of weakness. But here’s the truth: feedback is not a threat. It’s a gift that can help you refine your leadership, correct blind spots, and ensure you’re on the most effective path.

Proverbs 12:1 offers a blunt but important reminder: “Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid.” While the word “stupid” may seem strong, the principle is clear: resisting correction leads to stagnation, while embracing it leads to growth. As a Driver, you must shift your mindset to see feedback as valuable data that informs your next move, not as an attack on your competence.

When you’re open to feedback, you’re positioning yourself to become a better leader. Just as you expect those around you to receive your feedback with openness and a willingness to improve, you, too, must model that same behavior. Feedback should be seen as an opportunity to refine your strengths, improve your weaknesses, and enhance your ability to achieve the results you desire.

Feedback in the Context of Christian Leadership

In Christian leadership, feedback takes on an even greater dimension. It’s not just about improving performance or achieving goals—feedback becomes a tool for discipleship. As a leader, you’re called to equip and empower those around you. Ephesians 4:15 teaches us to “speak the truth in love.” Your ability to speak truth—clearly and directly—is one of your greatest gifts. But remember, it’s the “in love” part that transforms feedback from a sharp critique into a powerful tool for growth.

When giving feedback, consider how Jesus interacted with His disciples. He was always direct, but His words were motivated by love and a desire to see them become everything God had designed them to be. Matthew 16:23 shows Jesus giving Peter harsh feedback: “Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me.” Jesus wasn’t afraid to be direct when needed, but His goal was always Peter’s growth and preparation for leadership. As a Driver, this is your model. Your feedback should be clear and challenging, but always with the intent of helping others grow in their God-given calling.

What You Should Be Thinking About This Month

As we focus on Accepting & Giving Feedback this month, here are a few key areas I encourage you to reflect on:

1. How Can Feedback Sharpen My Leadership? You’re results-oriented, and feedback—whether you’re giving or receiving it—plays a crucial role in sharpening your ability to lead. Think about feedback as data that can help you refine your approach, improve your strategies, and ultimately achieve better results. This month, consider how feedback can enhance your leadership, not just fix mistakes.
2. Balancing Directness with Grace You excel at giving clear, direct feedback. This month, focus on balancing that directness with grace. How can you offer feedback that is both precise and compassionate? Reflect on how tone and timing can impact how your feedback is received. The goal is not just to correct behavior but to inspire improvement and growth.
3. Embracing Feedback as a Growth Opportunity Receiving feedback can sometimes feel like a challenge to your authority. This month, challenge yourself to view feedback as a tool for growth, not a critique of your leadership. How can you position yourself to receive feedback with openness and humility? Reflect on how accepting feedback can help you become a more effective and Christ-centered leader.
4. The Role of Feedback in Your Spiritual Walk Feedback is not just a leadership tool—it’s part of your spiritual development. Consider how feedback from others can help you grow in patience, humility, and grace. How can God use the feedback you receive this month to shape you more into the leader He has called you to be?

Questions to Consider & Thoughts to Ponder

Questions to Consider:

1.How can you deliver feedback in a way that balances directness with empathy, ensuring that you build up the person you are speaking to?

2.How can you become more open to receiving feedback, viewing it as an opportunity for growth rather than a challenge to your authority?

Motivational Thoughts:

•“Feedback is a tool for growth, not a critique of your worth. Use it to refine your leadership and sharpen your effectiveness.”

•“True leadership is not just about achieving results, but about developing people. Feedback is the key to unlocking their potential.”

Action Steps

Here are three practical action steps for you to take this month as you work through the theme of Accepting & Giving Feedback:

1. Set Up a Feedback Loop This month, identify one or two key people—whether it’s a team member, colleague, or family member—and ask for direct feedback on your leadership style. Focus on areas where you can improve and challenge yourself to receive the feedback with openness and gratitude. Remember, feedback is data that can help you improve your effectiveness.
2. Refine Your Feedback Style When you give feedback, be intentional about balancing directness with grace. Before giving feedback, take a moment to reflect on how you can deliver it in a way that not only corrects behavior but also inspires and encourages the person. Think about your tone, timing, and delivery—are you speaking the truth in love?
3.  Implement Feedback for Growth Take at least one piece of feedback you’ve received recently and make a plan to implement it. Whether it’s adjusting your leadership approach, improving a specific skill, or refining how you communicate, use the feedback to grow. Make feedback a part of your ongoing refinement process.

As a Driver, you are a natural leader, designed to achieve great things. By mastering the art of Accepting & Giving Feedback, you’ll not only improve your results but also empower those around you to reach their full potential. Feedback is one of the most powerful tools God has given you to grow as a leader and to help others grow as well. Embrace it, and you’ll see tremendous growth in both your leadership and your spiritual walk.

Blessings,

Chris Behnke

Founder, GOD Designed University

I’m excited to connect with you this month as we dive into a powerful theme that directly impacts your relationships, leadership, and personal growth: Accepting & Giving Feedback. As an Influencer, you possess a natural ability to bring people together, inspire action, and communicate with charisma. You’re likely to be someone who creates energy in the room, and people are drawn to your enthusiasm and positivity. This month, we’re going to explore how you can leverage these incredible qualities to enhance your ability to both give and receive feedback—turning potentially challenging conversations into opportunities for deeper connection and growth.

Feedback is often viewed as difficult or uncomfortable, but when approached with the right mindset and skills, it can become a transformative tool in our spiritual, personal, and professional lives. Through the lens of your NEXUS Influencer Profile, we’ll take a deep dive into how you can approach feedback with confidence, balancing truth with grace, and always keeping the bigger picture of relationship and growth in mind.

This blueprint will guide you through this month’s focus, offering insights tailored specifically to you as an Influencer, so you can apply the principles of feedback in a way that aligns with your natural strengths and empowers those around you.

Accepting & Giving Feedback for Influencers

Feedback as a Platform for Connection and Growth

As an Influencer, your core strength lies in your ability to inspire and motivate. You thrive on connecting with others and building meaningful relationships. Because of this, feedback—whether given or received—can serve as a powerful platform for deeper connection, stronger relationships, and personal growth. However, it’s important to recognize that feedback is a two-way street. While you may feel comfortable giving feedback, your challenge often lies in receiving it without taking it personally.

Why Feedback is Vital for Influencers

In your role as a natural connector and motivator, you have the unique ability to help others see their potential and motivate them toward it. This is a key component of giving feedback. Proverbs 27:17 tells us, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Giving feedback from this perspective allows you to sharpen those around you—not by cutting them down but by helping them become the best versions of themselves. You can use your gift of encouragement to offer feedback in a way that empowers, rather than deflates, others.

At the same time, receiving feedback can sometimes feel like a challenge for Influencers. Because you thrive on positive relationships and connection, critical feedback may feel like a disruption to the harmony you work so hard to create. But I want you to remember: feedback is not a critique of your character—it’s an opportunity to grow and refine your influence. As a leader and connector, the more you embrace feedback, the more you can elevate your impact.

The Balance Between Encouragement and Truth

Your natural inclination is to encourage others, often focusing on their strengths and the positive aspects of their performance or behavior. This is one of your greatest strengths as an Influencer—you have the ability to lift people up and make them feel seen and valued. However, there are times when giving feedback requires a balance of truth and grace. While it’s important to celebrate strengths, it’s equally important to address areas for improvement. Ephesians 4:15 encourages us to “speak the truth in love.” This means that while you should continue to highlight the positive, you also need to give honest feedback that helps others grow.

As an Influencer, your tone and delivery matter just as much as the content of your feedback. People will respond to your energy, so maintaining a positive, uplifting tone—even when discussing areas for improvement—will make your feedback more palatable and easier to receive.

Feedback in a Faith Context

In the Christian walk, feedback is part of the sanctification process. Just as God refines us through His Word and through relationships, we are called to help one another grow by offering feedback that encourages, challenges, and supports spiritual and personal growth. Hebrews 12:11 tells us that “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.” In this sense, feedback is a form of discipline—not in the punitive sense, but in the discipline of growth. As an Influencer, your ability to make this process enjoyable and engaging can transform how feedback is received by others.

The Power of Storytelling in Feedback

One of the most powerful tools you can use when giving feedback is storytelling. As an Influencer, you naturally gravitate towards stories as a way of connecting and communicating. When offering feedback, try framing it in the context of a personal story or an example that resonates with the person you’re speaking to. This not only makes the feedback feel less confrontational, but it also makes it memorable and relatable. People are more likely to respond positively to feedback when it feels like a shared experience rather than a critique.

What You Should Be Thinking About This Month

As an Influencer, your mind is naturally geared towards people and relationships. This month, as you reflect on the theme of Accepting & Giving Feedback, I want you to consider how your natural abilities can be leveraged to create meaningful change in both yourself and those around you. Here are a few key areas to focus on:

1. Think About the Influence of Your Words: As someone with a gift for communication, you know that your words carry weight. Whether you’re offering feedback to a friend, colleague, or family member, your words have the power to either build up or tear down. This month, consider how you can use your words to deliver feedback that is both honest and uplifting, always seeking to encourage growth while maintaining the integrity of your relationships.
2. Reflect on Your Ability to Receive Feedback: While you may be comfortable giving feedback, receiving it can be more difficult. This is natural for an Influencer, as you are deeply relational and value positive interactions. However, this month, I encourage you to reframe feedback as a gift. It’s an opportunity for you to grow and enhance your influence. Reflect on how you can open yourself up to receiving feedback with grace, without seeing it as a threat to your relationships or self-esteem.
3. Embrace the Process of Refinement: Feedback is not always easy, but it is necessary for growth. As you think about your role as an Influencer, recognize that part of your journey is to be refined by the feedback you receive. Embrace this process as part of God’s plan to shape you into the leader and connector He designed you to be.
4. The Importance of Authentic Encouragement: You naturally encourage others, but this month, consider how you can make your encouragement even more authentic by pairing it with constructive feedback. People will appreciate your ability to balance truth with grace, and this will strengthen your relationships and influence.

Questions to Consider & Thoughts to Ponder

Questions to Consider:

1.How can you use your gift of communication to deliver feedback in a way that is both truthful and encouraging?

2.What steps can you take this month to become more open to receiving feedback, viewing it as a tool for personal and spiritual growth rather than criticism?

Thoughts:

•“Feedback is not a reflection of your worth, but an invitation to grow into the person God has called you to be.”

•“As an Influencer, your words carry power. Use them to uplift, encourage, and challenge others toward growth.”

Action Steps

To help you put the principles of Accepting & Giving Feedback into action, here are three practical steps you can take this month:

1. Craft a Feedback Conversation: Identify someone in your personal or professional life who could benefit from your feedback. Take time to pray and reflect on how you can deliver feedback in a way that is truthful, yet encouraging. Use your natural ability to inspire as you frame the conversation, focusing on how the feedback can help them grow.
2. Invite Feedback from Others: This month, actively seek feedback from someone you trust—whether it’s a mentor, colleague, or friend. Approach the conversation with an open heart, asking for feedback on an area of your life where you feel you can improve. Practice receiving the feedback without defensiveness, and reflect on how it can help you refine your leadership and influence.
3. Use Storytelling to Give Feedback: When offering feedback this month, consider using a story or analogy to make your point. This will help the recipient relate to the feedback and see it as part of a bigger picture, rather than a critique. Your ability to connect through storytelling will make the feedback feel more personal and meaningful.

I’m excited for you to take these insights and apply them in your life this month. As an Influencer, your unique ability to connect with people and inspire them makes you a powerful force for positive change. By learning to master both giving and receiving feedback, you can strengthen your relationships, enhance your influence, and grow into the person God has called you to be. Remember, feedback is a tool for growth, and with your natural gifts, you are perfectly equipped to use it in a way that transforms lives—including your own.

Blessings,

Chris Behnke

Founder, GOD Designed University

This month, as we dive into the theme of Accepting & Giving Feedback, I’m excited to tailor this blueprint specifically for you as a Solutionary. You’re someone who is driven by problem-solving, innovation, and finding creative ways to bring resolution to complex issues. You thrive in environments where you can identify the root cause of a challenge and then develop effective strategies to overcome it. Feedback, both giving and receiving, is an essential tool for refining these skills. It offers you a chance to sharpen your problem-solving abilities, learn from the perspectives of others, and provide insight that helps others improve.

While feedback may not always come in the form of a problem to solve, your unique gifts as a Solutionary mean you can use feedback as a way to improve systems, processes, and relationships. This month’s focus will empower you to leverage feedback as a key tool for growth, both in yourself and in the people you interact with.

In this blueprint, we’ll explore how you, as a Solutionary, can approach feedback with a mindset of refinement and innovation, turning every conversation into an opportunity for positive change.

Accepting & Giving Feedback for Solutionaries

Feedback as a Tool for Problem-Solving

As a Solutionary, your natural tendency is to identify problems and implement solutions. You are energized by challenges and driven by a desire to see things work better, faster, and more efficiently. Feedback, when framed through this lens, is an incredible tool that can help you refine processes, improve systems, and deepen relationships. But here’s the key: feedback is not only about fixing problems, it’s also about building understanding and strengthening the bonds between people.

In Proverbs 12:1, we are reminded that “Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid.” This verse may feel a bit direct, but it speaks directly to the heart of a Solutionary’s journey with feedback. You already love knowledge and improvement, and feedback is one of the most direct ways God can help you grow in wisdom and effectiveness. Whether you are giving feedback to help someone improve or receiving it to fine-tune your own methods, the feedback loop is essential to becoming the best version of yourself and enabling others to do the same.

The Solutionary’s Approach to Giving Feedback

When you give feedback, you naturally want to focus on practical, actionable steps. As a Solutionary, you are most comfortable when the feedback you give is oriented around improvement and optimization. However, it’s essential to remember that feedback isn’t just about what needs to change but also how it is delivered. This is where your challenge lies. While you are brilliant at identifying areas that need improvement, you must also ensure that your feedback is delivered in a way that is empathetic and constructive, so that it’s not only received but also embraced.

Colossians 4:6 teaches us to “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” As a Solutionary, this is a critical reminder for you. Your conversations need to be full of grace, especially when delivering feedback that may be hard for others to hear. Grace in feedback doesn’t mean avoiding the truth, but it means delivering it in a way that builds the other person up rather than tearing them down.

Receiving Feedback as a Solutionary

Receiving feedback might be more of a challenge for you. Because you are a high performer with a constant drive to improve, criticism can sometimes feel like a personal attack on your ability to solve problems. It’s important to recognize that feedback, whether positive or critical, is not about your value or capabilities but rather about growth. It’s an opportunity to see your blind spots, adjust your strategies, and refine your approach.

Proverbs 15:31 says, “Whoever heeds life-giving correction will be at home among the wise.” This means that your ability to receive feedback well is a direct path to wisdom and further effectiveness. Feedback is not a judgment but an invitation to see things from a new perspective and to grow in wisdom and capability.

As a Solutionary, the feedback you receive can help you think outside the box, develop more robust solutions, and improve your own leadership. Embrace feedback as a vital tool for growth, and approach it with curiosity rather than defensiveness. Instead of seeing feedback as a critique, see it as another puzzle piece that helps you refine your solutions.

Feedback in the Context of Christian Living

In the Bible, we often see feedback used as a tool for growth. Think of Jesus’ interactions with His disciples—He often gave them feedback, pointing out where they lacked faith or understanding, but always with the goal of helping them become more effective in their ministry. Matthew 16:23, for example, shows Jesus giving direct feedback to Peter: “Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the concerns of God, but merely human concerns.” This feedback was not to tear Peter down but to correct his perspective and prepare him for greater leadership in the future.

As a Solutionary, you can model this type of feedback—clear, direct, but always aimed at helping others grow. When you give feedback, you are helping those around you become more effective, just as Jesus did with His disciples. And when you receive feedback, remember that God uses these moments to sharpen you, preparing you for even greater challenges and opportunities ahead.

What You Should Be Thinking About This Month

This month, as we focus on Accepting & Giving Feedback, I want you to reflect on how your natural tendencies as a Solutionary can both serve and challenge you in the feedback process. Consider these key points as you move through the month:

1. Feedback as Refinement, Not Criticism: Feedback, for you, should be seen as a tool for refining your strategies and solutions. Whether you’re giving or receiving feedback, approach it with a mindset of improvement. Ask yourself, “How can this feedback help me refine my approach?” rather than “What is wrong with what I’ve done?”
2. Balancing Directness with Empathy: You are naturally direct and focused on solutions. This is a powerful strength, but this month, I encourage you to reflect on how you can balance directness with empathy when delivering feedback. Consider how you can approach conversations in a way that leaves the other person feeling encouraged and supported, not just corrected.
3. The Power of Listening: One of the greatest opportunities for growth this month is to develop your skill in receiving feedback. You are an excellent problem-solver, but even the best strategies can be refined by the insights of others. Make an intentional effort to listen deeply and receive feedback with an open mind, recognizing that it’s a tool for your personal and professional growth.
4. Feedback as a Collaborative Process: Instead of seeing feedback as a one-way street, view it as a collaborative process. Whether you’re giving or receiving feedback, approach the conversation with the goal of creating a better outcome for both parties. Think of it as a partnership in problem-solving, where you and the other person work together to improve.

Questions to Consider & Thoughts to Ponder

As you move through this month, reflect on the following questions and motivational thoughts. These will help you gain deeper insights into the role of feedback in your life and work as a Solutionary.

Questions to Consider:

1.How can you use your gift of problem-solving to give feedback that is both practical and encouraging?

2.In what ways can you become more open to receiving feedback, viewing it as a tool for growth rather than criticism?

Thoughts:

•“Feedback is not a reflection of your abilities but an opportunity to refine your solutions and grow into greater effectiveness.”

•“Your solutions become stronger when they are informed by the perspectives of others. Use feedback as a collaborative tool for greater success.”

Action Steps

To help you apply this month’s theme, here are three practical action steps you can take as a Solutionary. These steps are designed to help you refine your approach to both giving and receiving feedback.

1. Conduct a Feedback Analysis: Identify a recent situation where you gave or received feedback. Analyze it from both perspectives—what worked well, and what could have been done differently? Reflect on how you can improve your feedback delivery or reception in the future.
2. Request Feedback from a Trusted Source: This month, proactively seek feedback from someone you trust. Ask for specific feedback on a project, solution, or process you’ve been working on. Use this feedback as an opportunity to refine your approach and strengthen your problem-solving abilities.
3. Give Feedback with Grace and Precision: Identify a person or team who could benefit from your feedback. Before you deliver it, take time to consider how you can balance directness with empathy, ensuring that the feedback is constructive and encouraging. Follow up with them afterward to offer support in implementing the feedback.

As a Solutionary, you are uniquely equipped to use feedback as a tool for refining both yourself and those around you. Your ability to solve problems and create innovative solutions is a gift, and when paired with the right approach to feedback, it becomes even more powerful. I encourage you to embrace this month’s theme and use feedback as an opportunity to grow, refine, and inspire others to do the same.

Blessings,

Chris Behnke

Founder, GOD Designed University

I want to start by acknowledging the unique strengths you bring to every situation as a Stabilizer. Your thoughtful approach, dedication to harmony, and commitment to the well-being of others make you an essential part of any community, team, or family. This month, as we focus on “Accepting & Giving Feedback,” I am excited to offer you insights tailored specifically to your NEXUS profile and your distinctive ability to create balance in relationships. Feedback is an integral part of growth, and you, as a Stabilizer, are perfectly positioned to navigate this process with empathy, wisdom, and grace.

This blueprint is designed to guide you through the October Mastermind Theme of feedback, equipping you with tools and understanding to help you confidently engage in feedback conversations—both giving and receiving. As we walk through the different sections, I want you to reflect on how God has designed you for this process and the ways you can lean into your unique gifts to create deeper connections and growth through feedback.

Accepting & Giving Feedback for Stabilizers

Feedback as a Spiritual Discipline

Feedback, both giving and receiving, is more than just a conversation—it’s an opportunity to grow in wisdom and love, to build stronger relationships, and to deepen our connection with God and others. Proverbs 27:17 tells us that “Iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” This sharpening process is often uncomfortable, but it is essential for personal and spiritual growth. As a Stabilizer, you may be naturally inclined to avoid conflict or uncomfortable conversations, seeking peace and harmony above all. However, I want to encourage you this month to see feedback not as conflict but as communication rooted in love—a chance to reflect God’s grace while fostering growth in yourself and others.

The Role of the Stabilizer in Feedback

Stabilizers like you excel in maintaining peace and creating environments where people feel safe and valued. You are a natural mediator, someone who sees multiple sides of a situation and finds ways to bring balance. These are incredible strengths when it comes to feedback, as you can deliver feedback in a way that nurtures rather than wounds. But here’s the challenge: because you value harmony, you might hesitate to give feedback that could potentially disrupt peace, even when it’s necessary.

The Bible calls us to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), which means that giving feedback is an act of love when done with the right heart. Your stabilizing nature allows you to approach feedback with empathy and understanding, ensuring that it’s received in a way that is constructive rather than harmful. Remember, you aren’t just offering feedback to criticize; you are inviting someone into a deeper relationship, offering them a mirror that reflects areas where they can grow, and doing so with kindness and care.

On the flip side, receiving feedback can be challenging for a Stabilizer. Because you value peace, any criticism—no matter how well-intentioned—can feel like a threat to your internal balance. But feedback, when received with an open heart, is a tool for growth. It’s important to remind yourself that receiving feedback is not a reflection of your worth or value but rather a gift that helps you become the person God designed you to be. Accepting feedback with grace requires a mindset shift, moving from a posture of self-defense to one of openness and humility.

The Importance of Timing and Tone

For a Stabilizer, the context of a conversation is just as important as the content. You understand better than most that the timing and tone of feedback can determine whether it leads to growth or resentment. This is a strength you can bring into your feedback sessions. A well-timed, gentle conversation can be transformative, and your ability to sense the right moment and deliver feedback with compassion is a gift. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us that “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” As a Stabilizer, your ability to speak gently but truthfully is one of the most powerful tools you have.

Feedback in the Workplace and at Home

In the workplace, your role as a Stabilizer means that you often serve as the glue that holds teams together. When giving feedback to a colleague, remember that your insight into creating harmony can help resolve tensions and build stronger working relationships. When receiving feedback, it’s important to listen without feeling defensive, knowing that constructive feedback is designed to help you thrive in your role. At home, the same principles apply. Whether you’re offering feedback to a spouse or receiving it from a family member, use your gift of balance to approach these conversations with empathy and grace, always seeking to strengthen the relationship.

What You Should Be Thinking About This Month

As we dive deeper into Accepting & Giving Feedback this month, I want you to reflect on how you can lean into your Stabilizer strengths to foster growth in both yourself and others. Here are a few key points to consider:

1. Think About the Role of Peace in Feedback: You thrive in environments of peace and calm, but feedback can sometimes feel like it disrupts this harmony. This month, I encourage you to view feedback as a tool for creating long-term peace, even if it creates short-term discomfort. Reflect on how giving and receiving feedback can strengthen relationships, not weaken them.
2. Reflect on the Timing and Delivery of Your Feedback: As a Stabilizer, you are highly attuned to the emotional tone of a conversation. Use this to your advantage when giving feedback. Think about how you can deliver feedback in a way that is gentle yet truthful, constructive yet kind. Remember that the way you give feedback can either invite growth or shut down communication.
3. Reframe Receiving Feedback as a Gift: Receiving feedback can feel challenging, but it’s an opportunity for growth. This month, challenge yourself to welcome feedback with open arms, recognizing that it is not a reflection of your inadequacy but an invitation to grow into the person God designed you to be.
4. Emphasize Empathy in Every Interaction: Your empathetic nature allows you to see multiple sides of a situation, which is a valuable asset in feedback conversations. Reflect on how you can use empathy to make the feedback process smoother for both yourself and others.

Questions to Consider & Thoughts to Ponder

As you move through this month, I invite you to reflect on the following questions and motivational thoughts that are designed to help you grow in the area of feedback:

Questions to Consider:

1.When was the last time you received feedback that felt difficult to accept? How did you handle it, and what could you do differently next time to welcome it as a tool for growth?

2.How can you use your gift of empathy to create a safe space for others to receive feedback from you? Are there areas where you’ve hesitated to give feedback because you feared disrupting the peace?

Thoughts:

“Feedback is not a threat to peace but a pathway to growth. When delivered with love, it builds stronger relationships and deeper trust.”

“God calls us to speak the truth in love, even when it’s difficult. As a Stabilizer, you are uniquely equipped to deliver feedback in a way that nurtures rather than harms.”

Action Steps

This final section outlines practical steps you can take this month to refine your approach to feedback based on your NEXUS type as a Stabilizer. I encourage you to put these into practice in both your personal and professional life.

1. Prepare for Feedback Conversations: Before giving feedback, take a few moments to pray and reflect on how you can approach the conversation with love, empathy, and clarity. Consider the recipient’s emotional state and how you can tailor your delivery to meet their needs while still communicating the truth.
2. Practice Receiving Feedback Gracefully: The next time you receive feedback, practice active listening. Resist the urge to defend yourself, and instead, ask clarifying questions that demonstrate your openness to learning. Remember that feedback is a gift, and God is using it to shape you into who He has called you to be.
3. Schedule a Feedback Session: This month, schedule a feedback session with someone in your life—whether it’s a colleague, spouse, or friend. Use the NEXUS framework to tailor your feedback, ensuring that you are creating a space for constructive dialogue. Follow up after the session to continue the conversation and provide support for implementing the feedback.

I’m excited to see how God will use this month’s focus on Accepting & Giving Feedback to refine your ability to engage in hard conversations with grace and empathy. Remember, you are a Stabilizer—someone uniquely equipped to bring peace and balance into every situation. Lean into that gift, and you will find that feedback becomes a tool for deeper connection, personal growth, and spiritual maturity.

Blessings,

Chris Behnke

Founder, GOD Designed University